Matt "Cougar Hunter" Ganz

Flirting 101 : Techniques On How To Flirt With Women

September 4, 2013 By Shogun Method team 8 Comments

Matthew here. OK, so this won’t be a complete guide on how to flirt with a girl because the subject is just far too vast to be covered in a single article. However, this SIBG article will cover most of the highly effective techniques that will help you flirt with a girl and succeed at winning her over in the end – ten (10) tactics that will build rapport with her.

SIDENOTE: This guide is a shortened version of the comprehensive SIBG Master Method™ that we provide to our members (which is only available for those to join the Baltimore Seduction Lair – yes, you’ll need to come to Calvin Street yourself).

Flirty girl Amanda at SIBG.com HQ — Flirting skills are an important component of the SIBG seducer’s arsenal.

Flirting 101: SIBG’s Top Ten Techniques On Flirting With Women

Technique #1: The Soft Stare. (Setting The Stage)

Since the eyes can generally convey a lot of different feelings, you should put them to use whenever you flirt with girls because girls are actually hardwired by their feelings. Ideally, you should stare at a girl deeply whenever you talk to her while maintaining a calm and relaxed expression on your face. This will not just make her feel more comfortable in your presence, but it will instantly make her feel closer to you, as well.

Technique #2: Lightning Emotional Connection. (Use Hypnosis)

Many guys will debate me on this (yes, even members of the SIBG lair!), but I recommend immediately jumping into building emotional connections rather early in the interaction (immediately after Setting The Stage above). After the initial attraction stage, you will need to build attraction – and this can only be done if she is affected emotionally.

The fastest and easiest way to build emotional connection with a woman is to use hypnosis. I know some guys are completely against this, but I don’t care – it’s the easiest shortcut to a woman’s heart, period. A particular technique, called fractionation, is known to be the fastest way to make a woman feel emotionally “invested” in you. Click here for a free guide.

Technique #3: The Sensual Look.

Once a girl feels more comfortable around you, you can give her a mischievous look that will tell you that you think about doing naughty things with her or a coy look that will make her think that you have a dirty secret that she would love to know. You can bite your lip every now and then, too; this move happens to make girls think about sexual things without them meaning to.

Of course, this will be more effective once you have built some emotional connection with her – otherwise you’ll just look like a creep, or worse, a potential molester minus the rapist glasses and brown trench coat. Do yourself a favor and use fractionation. Really. Do it.

Technique #4: The Surprise Wink.

Whenever you pass by the girl that you are eyeing, wink at her after you lock eyes. Since she won’t expect it, it will surprise her a bit yet give her the clear and distinct message that you are flirting with her.

Naturally, you shouldn’t overdo it with the winking, though. If you wink at her too much, she might just get used to it and not get affected by your winks anymore. If winking is out of the question, then smile at her instead. This will show her that you are both friendly and approachable.

Technique #5: The Playful Bump.

Playful actions, like bumping a girl on her side, will definitely make her smile. As a bonus, it will create sexual tension between the two of you, too. Make sure you don’t do this to a complete stranger, though; that might just make things awkward. Again, revisit Tip #2 above and create that emotional bond first.

SIBG’s Golden Rule: Make Her Feel Comfortable With You BEFORE TOUCHING HER.

Nice picture of a woman with really white teeth — Look at my white, pearly teeth, not at my boobies!

Technique #6: The Understatement.

While complimenting a girl is something that a lot of guys do, it is actually something that I ask my SIBG mentees to stay away from. At the very least, you should understate your compliments as much as possible.

Believe it or not, telling a girl that you like her through compliments will do nothing but the break the tension. So, instead of telling a girl how gorgeous she looks, try telling her that she isn’t the ugliest girl that you have ever met in your life. This will add a bit of humor in the mix, yet will still tell her that you think she is beautiful. #seewhatididthere 😉

Technique #7: The Double Negative.

Here’s a patented SIBG flirting technique. Another fun and effective way to compliment a girl or tell her that you like her without boosting up her ego too much and breaking the flirty tension is by using double negatives such as, “I don’t not think you’re beautiful”.

This statement will not just confuse her to death and make her think about you all day long, but it is also a playful way to tell her how you feel.

If you combine a double negative with an understated compliment (see Tip #5 above), then you will definitely hit gold. Try saying something like “I don’t hate you at all” or “I don’t not like you a little bit“. That is sure to get her mind reeling.

Technique #8: The Sensual Tease.

Now if you have used all the first seven techniques above, you’ll find that she will display some indicators of interest, and she will be starting to flirt back at you.

Once you start to notice this, you can start teasing her for liking you or for being in love with you. This is also one of the most subtlest ways if you want to know how to seduce a woman (we have covered this in a previous mini-guide which you can read here). If you are feeling extra bold, then you can even tease her by saying that you know that she wants to kiss you or telling her to stop flirting with you so much. Make sure you don’t sound cocky when you say these things, though; otherwise, your words might just completely backfire…

…but if you have built enough emotional rapport with her then it won’t – it’s as simple as that. 🙂

Technique #9: The Moniker.

This doesn’t mean that you should be rude or anything, but you can give her a cute nickname that pertains to an inside joke or something special that you noticed about her.

Call her goofy for the way that she dances, call her a geek for liking Star Wars so much or call her a brat for being spoiled by her parents, for example. Make your teasing fun and it will easily be seen as flirting instead of rudeness.

Technique #10: The Mind Hacker. (Advanced Technique)

Most guys would not consider using hypnosis or covert psychology to flirt with women, but as hardcore seducers, we do. Remember that all you want to do when you flirt is to develop a deep emotional rapport with a woman so that you can continue to build attraction on top of the connection. The best way to do this is to use fractionation – a hypnosis and covert psychology technique which is reputed to be able to make a woman fall in love in ten minutes flat.

We here at the Baltimore Seduction Lair have been teaching and using fractionation as part of our “core” curricula, and for good reason – it works. We have, unfortunately, also seen the dark side of this technique; when misused, it can cause a woman to feel emotionally DEPENDENT on you. Believe me, you don’t want a stalker following you everywhere you go, no matter how hot she is. 🙂

If you agree NOT to misuse this technique, then click on the link below to find out more on how to use it to attract women quickly. If you have BAD intentions against women, then DO NOT click on this link below.

How To Use Fractionation To Attract Women

Good luck! 🙂

Matt Ganz SIBG

-Matthew Ganz, SIBG.com seduction lair leader

How to Pick Up Girls at the Bar

July 23, 2013 By Shogun Method team Leave a Comment

When at a bar, picking up girls is a completely different ball game compared to picking them up at coffee shops or while walking on the streets. You need to understand that there are significant differences when it comes to this, like meeting their eyes first since the music can be quite loud.

Here is a step-by-step guide to help you out:

Begin with Eye Contact

Before even approaching a girl at the bar, you have to meet her eyes until she sees you looking her way. When your eyes meet, smile and look away. This is the first step to show her that you find her interesting. If she finds you interesting, as well, she should smile back or do something flirty, like play with her hair. This is actually the first way to flirt. Watch out for these signs before making your next move.

Make Your Approach

Around ten seconds after smiling at herc, approach her or at least get closer to her somehow. Don’t rush to her side, though. Just slowly move towards her in a confident and slightly cocky manner. Don’t forget to keep a smile on your face while you do this, and don’t just walk up to her without looking away from her eyes, either. This might make her feel threatened.

Ideally, you should come in from the side. If she is with a group of other people, she might not notice you too much, so speak up and mention that you can’t stay for long. This will make her want to make the most of her time with you.

Win Her Friends Over

Girls are hardly ever alone at the bar, so there are very high chances that she is with a group of other people. If this is the case, try to win the entire group over. If there are guys in the group, introduce yourself to them. Then, try to figure out if any of the guys is her boyfriend. If there seems to be a “Queen Bee” in the group, make sure you become her friend, too. Check out other ways to win her over here.

Steal Her Away

If you've win everyone over, ask her friends if you could 'borrow' her and talk somewhere you could hear each other well. — If you’ve win everyone over, ask her friends if you could ‘borrow’ her and talk somewhere you could hear each other well.

After winning everybody over, you have to try and get your target away from them. Use a line like “I’d like to borrow your friend for a few minutes. Is that okay? I promise to bring her back.”

Another tactic is to invite the entire group to move elsewhere. Since you invited them, you will have to sit down first. Once that happens, you shouldn’t have any trouble getting her phone number or asking her to go somewhere else to talk.

Believe it or not, all of the aforementioned tactics can really change how a girl sees you. You just have to make sure that you follow the guide to a tee and constantly try to take things to a whole new level every time you try it out. Through some basic trial and error and more research online, you should soon come up with a flawless guide that will help you get the results that you want in no time!

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.

Good Questions to Ask a Girl

July 23, 2013 By Shogun Method team Leave a Comment

Introduction from Matthew (matt@sibg.com): I have asked Patrick Forest (our guest instructor from Australia) to talk about the questions to ask a woman when seducing her online. Now these are also useful in face-to-face situations: just adapt!

The following article has been transcribed from a talk given by Patrick Forest to Baltimore Seduction Lair in March. Patrick is an all-time hustler and seducer with a head full of hair even at 40!

So look here, my SIBG.com brothers. If you are interested in trying out online dating, then you need to know that it isn’t just about filling your profile page with little details and pictures about yourself. You will also have to learn how to interact with girls well. As such, you might want to learn some good questions to ask a girl online before actually asking her out.

Naturally, you will also need to keep in mind that the ultimate key to succeeding in online dating is to create attraction with a girl as soon as possible. Fortunately, girls are emotional creatures, so all you have to do is make an impact on their emotions and ask the right questions in order to get them to like you.

For online dating to be a success, you have to ask the RIGHT questions.

Here’s online dating 101. Before you try to win a girl over, though, you have to decide what kind of girl you want to meet online first. There wouldn’t be any point in running after all of them because girls won’t find that attractive. Since there are so many girls to choose for online, though, the best way to go about it would be to ask several girls certain questions that will tell you more about them. Make sure you have fun while you do this, though, so you can successfully create attraction while finding out more about each girl’s personality.

Question Number One: What do you do on weekends?

This question is pretty self-explanatory and you can change it as needed. If the girl’s profile page already mentions what she does on weekends, for example, you can ask her something about her favorite activities instead. The best thing about this question is that it is safe, but can still be a fun way to find some things that you have in common with a girl. It serves as a great icebreaker, too.

Question Number Two: Have you met any guys that you really don’t like online?

smartphone — **Ask her what she does on weekends. You might find out you have a lot more in common than you thought.**

Make sure you add some playfulness into the mix here, so you can start up some good banter as time goes by. Asking this question won’t just make you stand out from the other guys that girls meet online, but it will also show girls that you think differently, in general. This will, in turn, create attraction in no time.

Question Number Three: Do you enjoy online dating?

As usual, make sure you add some playfulness into the mix here because the whole point is to come up with interesting and fun conversations. Make sure you pay close heed to her answers, too, since you could learn a lot from her previous experiences in online dating this way. Plus, you will be able to find out more about what she likes and what she dislikes through her answers.

Don’t think that it’s just online dating. A study shows that the most successful marriages are from online dating. As mentioned earlier, these three questions aren’t exactly set in stone or anything, so you can change them up anytime, as needed. As a matter of fact, it would be best to change them according to your current situation and your overall personality. Besides, using canned questions and lines that don’t suit your style might just throw girls off – remember that.

Bonus Tip: Use Covert Hypnosis

Finally, when you ask a girl these questions, insert some hypnotic phrases in order to build and deepen the attraction. Now if you’re already a senior member of SIBG then you should already know these covert tricks at the back of your hand. Matt told me that you guys worship at the altar of Derek Rake, and I can personally attest to the effectiveness of Derek Rake’s techniques… in particular, fractionation.

But before you delve into that technique, know this – I am convinced that there is a conspiracy to STOP newbies or people outside the ‘circle’ to learn about fractionation. We can understand this; the fact is that the less people know this then it’s better for the rest of us.

Matt is concerned that some guys misuse this technique and use it to mistreat women. So, if you are out there to “take revenge” on women who have been rejecting you, then don’t learn fractionation. I am serious. Don’t.

Now if you are one of the “good guys” then check this out.

What Women Want

July 17, 2013 By Shogun Method team 2 Comments

A lot of men wonder what women want, but always get different answers thrown at them – if any at all. Unfortunately, since times tend to change, women tend to change, as well. Plus, every woman tends to be different, so there aren’t actually any specific traits that every woman would want in a man. Fortunately, there are some common traits out there that women might look for. Of course you would want her to like you the natural way. But there are traits you don’t have but could work on. If you have them, you can then make yourself look much more attractive in the eyes of today’s modern woman. Here’s what they are:

Being a Gentleman

Although most modern women are independent, they will still swoon for men who open doors for them, are respectful and are real gentlemen. Not because men fall in love at first sight doesn’t mean that women, too. So, if you respect women, in general, then you will instantly get brownie points for that.

Being Sensitive

sensitiveman — Women love spontaneity. Surprise her with gifts – big or small – and she will sure fall under your spell.

To melt a woman’s heart, it would help to be kind, considerate and a little spontaneous. Try giving her flowers on a random day, for example. As mentioned earlier, most modern women are independent, but they still enjoy getting pampered and surprised every now and then. So, if you make her feel special, she is sure to love you for it.

Being Mature

Since security and maturity are closely intertwined, a lot of women nowadays prefer dating older men. So, if you seem mature and responsible, women will think more highly of you.

Being Confident

Men who are sure of themselves, but aren’t too arrogant, would be frontrunners in women’s selection of people to date. This is because confident men look like they can deal with any obstacle that might come their way. Being confident is, in itself, a seduction technique. They also look like they can take care of anybody or anything – their women included.

Having the Power to Provide

provider — Women usually think long-term, so a man who could well provide for her is totally attractive.

Women tend to think in the long term. Since men have always had the role of providing for the family for as long as women can remember, knowing that a man will be able to provide for a family is one of the traits that women look for. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be rich in order to win a woman over. However, if you can show her that you are capable of taking care of her, then she will feel much safer around you and will become more attracted to you in the long run.

Looking Good

Although looks aren’t as important to women as they are to men, they still play a part in the list of traits that women look for in a man. Getting her to love you needs you to exert some effort.

Now, even if the traits here don’t sound anything like you, there is no need to feel bad. As long as you are willing to learn how to get these traits or know that you have the potential of inheriting them in the future, then you would be a prime candidate for women who are currently on the lookout for men that they can date, marry or just be in a relationship with. Besides, no matter what women want, love will find a way in the end, anyway. Just have faith.

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.

SIBG Guide On How to Ask a Girl Out On A Date

May 28, 2013 By Shogun Method team 1 Comment

Some guys find it extremely hard to ask a girl out. To others, it is something that just comes naturally. Of course, there are cases where everything just depends on the girl that is being asked, as well. Either way, though, any guy can ask a girl out, whether they do it through a text message or in person. The key merely lies in asking the girl in a way that will get her to agree to your request. Naturally, rejections are inevitable sometimes; but the way that you ask a girl really can make a difference a lot of the time.

To Plan or Not to Plan

This may sound difficult, but the expert seducer doesn’t plan things out too much. In fact, a lot of the time, it would be highly advisable not to plan things out at all. That’s what we do here in Baltimore. 🙂

While some details are important to know before asking a girl out, planning things out too much may make things seem unnatural and may cause confusion if the girl doesn’t follow the script that you had planned in your head. It would really be ideal to just go with the flow when it comes to this.

One of the things that you do need to think about beforehand, though, is where you will be taking her on the date. At the very least, you should already have some ideas in mind before you approach her. Girls generally hate hearing the words, “I don’t know” when asking guys where they will be going on a date. So, try to find out a bit more about the girl beforehand and plan it out. If she seems sporty, plan out something adventurous. If she seems more of an indoorsy type, then invite her to the movies. The most important thing, though would be to know exactly where you want to take her before asking her out. One of our lair members started this forum thread for date ideas in Baltimore – you might find it useful. And if you’re of the mature demographic then find more ideas here.

If you are having trouble figuring out what kind of girl she is for now, then stay safe and suggest something casual and fun. Remember: if you keep things simple and just aim to get to know her better during the date and nothing else, then your chances of getting her to go out with you will be much higher. And if you can’t tell whether she likes you or not, then this isn’t the right time to flirt with her. Watch a movie, go bowling or have some coffee together on your first date. You can even bring your friends if you want to ease the pressure while getting to know her. If things end up going well, then you can start planning some alone time with her in the future.

It would also be important to remember that not all girls are fond of nervous guys, which is why it would be best to ask a girl out at a time when you are feeling calm and collected. At the very least, you should seem at ease when you ask her out and don’t just jump the gun when you do it, either. Start with some small talk, laugh and smile when appropriate, and then casually say, “We should go out sometime.” when the time is right. Don’t forget to look straight into her eyes and smile when you deliver that line, either. Also, try not to anticipate a positive response. It would be best to be ready for anything, so that you won’t have any trouble dealing with rejection in case you end up disappointed. (Remember: the best way to pick up girls is to keep them in “HOT” mode.)

If she hints through text, then you may ask her through text nicely.

There are times where an opportunity to ask a girl out may present itself out of nowhere. If this happens, then you will need to act on the opportunity that is given to you right away. It would be important to make sure that you are presentable when you ask her out, though. Make sure you smell good, too, so that she warms up to the idea of going out with you and wants to get closer to you. The reasons why you want to go out with her in the first place is because you want her to like you. Make sure you look good, as well, so that the thought of spending hours on a date with you will be more appealing to her. Popping some breath mints wouldn’t hurt, either. If she hints through text, then ask her through text the nicest way possible.

Her Verdict!

As you can see, asking a girl for a date really isn’t as difficult as most guys make it out to be. However, she may already make up her mind on whether she would want to go out with you or not before you even ask her the question. So, while the manner in which you ask her could sway her decision into a favorable one for you, success may hinge on her overall interest in you before you even ask her out. To boost her interest in you even before you ask her, read this little guide.

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.