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Good Questions to Ask a Girl

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Introduction from Matthew (matt@sibg.com): I have asked Patrick Forest (our guest instructor from Australia) to talk about the questions to ask a woman when seducing her online. Now these are also useful in face-to-face situations: just adapt!

The following article has been transcribed from a talk given by Patrick Forest to Baltimore Seduction Lair in March. Patrick is an all-time hustler and seducer with a head full of hair even at 40!

So look here, my SIBG.com brothers. If you are interested in trying out online dating, then you need to know that it isn’t just about filling your profile page with little details and pictures about yourself. You will also have to learn how to interact with girls well. As such, you might want to learn some good questions to ask a girl online before actually asking her out.

Naturally, you will also need to keep in mind that the ultimate key to succeeding in online dating is to create attraction with a girl as soon as possible. Fortunately, girls are emotional creatures, so all you have to do is make an impact on their emotions and ask the right questions in order to get them to like you.

For online dating to be a success, you have to ask the RIGHT questions.

Here’s online dating 101. Before you try to win a girl over, though, you have to decide what kind of girl you want to meet online first. There wouldn’t be any point in running after all of them because girls won’t find that attractive. Since there are so many girls to choose for online, though, the best way to go about it would be to ask several girls certain questions that will tell you more about them. Make sure you have fun while you do this, though, so you can successfully create attraction while finding out more about each girl’s personality.

Question Number One: What do you do on weekends?

This question is pretty self-explanatory and you can change it as needed. If the girl’s profile page already mentions what she does on weekends, for example, you can ask her something about her favorite activities instead. The best thing about this question is that it is safe, but can still be a fun way to find some things that you have in common with a girl. It serves as a great icebreaker, too.

Question Number Two: Have you met any guys that you really don’t like online?

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Ask her what she does on weekends. You might find out you have a lot more in common than you thought.

Make sure you add some playfulness into the mix here, so you can start up some good banter as time goes by. Asking this question won’t just make you stand out from the other guys that girls meet online, but it will also show girls that you think differently, in general. This will, in turn, create attraction in no time.

Question Number Three: Do you enjoy online dating?

As usual, make sure you add some playfulness into the mix here because the whole point is to come up with interesting and fun conversations. Make sure you pay close heed to her answers, too, since you could learn a lot from her previous experiences in online dating this way. Plus, you will be able to find out more about what she likes and what she dislikes through her answers.

Don’t think that it’s just online dating. A study shows that the most successful marriages are from online dating. As mentioned earlier, these three questions aren’t exactly set in stone or anything, so you can change them up anytime, as needed. As a matter of fact, it would be best to change them according to your current situation and your overall personality. Besides, using canned questions and lines that don’t suit your style might just throw girls off – remember that.

Bonus Tip: Use Covert Hypnosis

Finally, when you ask a girl these questions, insert some hypnotic phrases in order to build and deepen the attraction. Now if you’re already a senior member of SIBG then you should already know these covert tricks at the back of your hand. Matt told me that you guys worship at the altar of Derek Rake, and I can personally attest to the effectiveness of Derek Rake’s techniques… in particular, fractionation.

But before you delve into that technique, know this – I am convinced that there is a conspiracy to STOP newbies or people outside the ‘circle’  to learn about fractionation. We can understand this; the fact is that the less people know this then it’s better for the rest of us.

Matt is concerned that some guys misuse this technique and use it to mistreat women. So, if you are out there to “take revenge” on women who have been rejecting you, then don’t learn fractionation. I am serious. Don’t.

Now if you are one of the “good guys” then check this out.

What Women Want

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A lot of men wonder what women want, but always get different answers thrown at them – if any at all. Unfortunately, since times tend to change, women tend to change, as well. Plus, every woman tends to be different, so there aren’t actually any specific traits that every woman would want in a man. Fortunately, there are some common traits out there that women might look for. Of course you would want her to like you the natural way. But there are traits you don’t have but could work on. If you have them, you can then make yourself look much more attractive in the eyes of today’s modern woman. Here’s what they are:

Being a Gentleman

Although most modern women are independent, they will still swoon for men who open doors for them, are respectful and are real gentlemen. Not because men fall in love at first sight doesn’t mean that women, too. So, if you respect women, in general, then you will instantly get brownie points for that.

Being Sensitive

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Women love spontaneity. Surprise her with gifts – big or small – and she will sure fall under your spell.

To melt a woman’s heart, it would help to be kind, considerate and a little spontaneous. Try giving her flowers on a random day, for example. As mentioned earlier, most modern women are independent, but they still enjoy getting pampered and surprised every now and then. So, if you make her feel special, she is sure to love you for it.

Being Mature

Since security and maturity are closely intertwined, a lot of women nowadays prefer dating older men. So, if you seem mature and responsible, women will think more highly of you.

Being Confident

Men who are sure of themselves, but aren’t too arrogant, would be frontrunners in women’s selection of people to date. This is because confident men look like they can deal with any obstacle that might come their way. Being confident is, in itself, a seduction technique. They also look like they can take care of anybody or anything – their women included.

Having the Power to Provide

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Women usually think long-term, so a man who could well provide for her is totally attractive.

Women tend to think in the long term. Since men have always had the role of providing for the family for as long as women can remember, knowing that a man will be able to provide for a family is one of the traits that women look for. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be rich in order to win a woman over. However, if you can show her that you are capable of taking care of her, then she will feel much safer around you and will become more attracted to you in the long run.

Looking Good

Although looks aren’t as important to women as they are to men, they still play a part in the list of traits that women look for in a man. Getting her to love you needs you to exert some effort.

Now, even if the traits here don’t sound anything like you, there is no need to feel bad. As long as you are willing to learn how to get these traits or know that you have the potential of inheriting them in the future, then you would be a prime candidate for women who are currently on the lookout for men that they can date, marry or just be in a relationship with. Besides, no matter what women want, love will find a way in the end, anyway. Just have faith.

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.

SIBG Guide On How to Ask a Girl Out On A Date

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Some guys find it extremely hard to ask a girl out. To others, it is something that just comes naturally. Of course, there are cases where everything just depends on the girl that is being asked, as well. Either way, though, any guy can ask a girl out, whether they do it through a text message or in person. The key merely lies in asking the girl in a way that will get her to agree to your request. Naturally, rejections are inevitable sometimes; but the way that you ask a girl really can make a difference a lot of the time.

To Plan or Not to Plan

This may sound difficult, but the expert seducer doesn’t plan things out too much. In fact, a lot of the time, it would be highly advisable not to plan things out at all. That’s what we do here in Baltimore. 🙂

While some details are important to know before asking a girl out, planning things out too much may make things seem unnatural and may cause confusion if the girl doesn’t follow the script that you had planned in your head. It would really be ideal to just go with the flow when it comes to this.

  • One of the things that you do need to think about beforehand, though, is where you will be taking her on the date. At the very least, you should already have some ideas in mind before you approach her. Girls generally hate hearing the words, “I don’t know” when asking guys where they will be going on a date. So, try to find out a bit more about the girl beforehand and plan it out. If she seems sporty, plan out something adventurous. If she seems more of an indoorsy type, then invite her to the movies. The most important thing, though would be to know exactly where you want to take her before asking her out. One of our lair members started this forum thread for date ideas in Baltimore – you might find it useful. And if you’re of the mature demographic then find more ideas here.
  • If you are having trouble figuring out what kind of girl she is for now, then stay safe and suggest something casual and fun. Remember: if you keep things simple and just aim to get to know her better during the date and nothing else, then your chances of getting her to go out with you will be much higher. And if you can’t tell whether she likes you or not, then this isn’t the right time to flirt with her. Watch a movie, go bowling or have some coffee together on your first date. You can even bring your friends if you want to ease the pressure while getting to know her. If things end up going well, then you can start planning some alone time with her in the future.
  • It would also be important to remember that not all girls are fond of nervous guys, which is why it would be best to ask a girl out at a time when you are feeling calm and collected. At the very least, you should seem at ease when you ask her out and don’t just jump the gun when you do it, either. Start with some small talk, laugh and smile when appropriate, and then casually say, “We should go out sometime.” when the time is right. Don’t forget to look straight into her eyes and smile when you deliver that line, either. Also, try not to anticipate a positive response. It would be best to be ready for anything, so that you won’t have any trouble dealing with rejection in case you end up disappointed. (Remember: the best way to pick up girls is to keep them in “HOT” mode.)

If she hints through text, then you may ask her through text nicely.
If she hints through text, then you may ask her through text nicely.

  • There are times where an opportunity to ask a girl out may present itself out of nowhere. If this happens, then you will need to act on the opportunity that is given to you right away. It would be important to make sure that you are presentable when you ask her out, though. Make sure you smell good, too, so that she warms up to the idea of going out with you and wants to get closer to you. The reasons why you want to go out with her in the first place is because you want her to like you. Make sure you look good, as well, so that the thought of spending hours on a date with you will be more appealing to her. Popping some breath mints wouldn’t hurt, either. If she hints through text, then ask her through text the nicest way possible.

Her Verdict!

As you can see, asking a girl for a date really isn’t as difficult as most guys make it out to be. However, she may already make up her mind on whether she would want to go out with you or not before you even ask her the question. So, while the manner in which you ask her could sway her decision into a favorable one for you, success may hinge on her overall interest in you before you even ask her out. To boost her interest in you even before you ask her, read this little guide.

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.

The SIBG Formula On Getting An Ex-Girlfriend Back

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Do you want to learn how to get an ex back because you can’t seem to get rid of the heartbreak and pain that you are currently feeling from your breakup? Have you already tried to convince your ex to get back together with you, but she refuses to budge?

Most adults have experienced a breakup at least once in their lives, and a lot of them just move on from it. However, if you aren’t ready to admit defeat or play the victim and are actually willing to put in some effort in getting your ex back, then read on.

The Truth

The truth is that most breakups are reversible. You just need to know which steps to take. That’s right. No matter why you might have broken up, you can reverse things. You just need to learn how to bottle up your feelings for now; otherwise, you could end up making a big mistake and lose your ex forever because of it.

Another thing that you need to do is ask yourself why you want to get back together with your ex. Try to figure out what you really want for yourself and for your future relationship, as well. Do you really love your ex? If so, then keep those feelings bottled up and avoid doing anything impulsive or irrational. It wouldn’t be smart to do anything desperate, either – and that includes giving in to techniques that involve manipulation and guilt.

Acceptance

Now, this might sound harsh, but you have to accept that your relationship is currently over. Before thinking of getting her back, accept that you have just broken up. You also have to keep in mind that anything that you do right now can make or break your chances of getting your ex back. So, if you simply accept your ex’s decision to break up for now, she will know that you care and that you still respect her despite everything – and that would definitely be a bonus point in the right direction!

After accepting the decision, you may want to lay low and mull things over on your own for a while. Figure out why you broke up in the first place. While you may not have the power to go back and change the past, you can still learn from any mistakes that you might have done or, at the very least, grow from whatever it is that happened between the two of you.

If you need peer support, and you are in the Baltimore area, join our lair (contact details at the bottom).

Things to Avoid

Some breakups happen because of a single event, behavior or action that the other person simply wasn’t able to handle anymore. Regardless of what the reason behind your breakup might be, though, you have to find out what the specifics are, so that you can deal with it later on. While doing all of these things may get your ex back, you may want to learn how to keep your new relationship intact this time around, too. If this is the case, then here are some of the things that you need to avoid like the plague:

Whether your ex is the one who can't stop texting, remember that you should stop talking for now.
Whether your ex is the one who can’t stop texting, remember that you should stop talking for now.

1. Contacting Your Ex.

Whether your ex is the one who won’t stop texting, emailing or calling you; or if you are the culprit behind your current communication levels, you need to stop talking to each other for now. Even if you want nothing more than to make sure your ex stays in your life, so that she won’t slip away from your grasp; you have to let her fly free for a while. After all, nobody likes a needy and desperate ex – and that includes your ex.

2. Releasing Your Emotions.

You have to let your emotions calm down while staying away from your ex. While staying away from her, dwell on your past relationship and – as mentioned earlier – think about why you failed as a couple. Make sure you are very honest when it comes to this, though, so you can learn from your mistakes properly.

3. Keeping Your Pride Up.

You need to stop being so proud and just let your ex go, regardless of why you broke up in the first place. Stop thinking about her altogether, if possible. Believe it or not, your nonchalance will help you win your ex back again later on. In the meantime, learn how to meet other women – click here for the corresponding guide on SIBG. Most importantly, re-learn all your seduction techniques – especially flirting.

You might be down in the dumps right now, but you should know that love is hardly ever the reason behind bad breakups. So, if you play your cards just right and behave correctly, you should have no trouble getting your ex back in no time. All you have to do is follow the aforementioned steps and you will be all good to go. Good luck!

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.

SIBG’S Tips on: How to Get a Girlfriend

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A lot of guys wonder how they can get a girlfriend. For some reason, a lot of guys worry at the mere thought of approaching a girl, let alone dating one and becoming their boyfriend. A lot of the time, guys become so anxious and stressed that they lose all of their confidence and end up failing when trying to show girls how they really feel.

Fortunately, there are various steps that guys can follow to win over the girl of their dreams. For starters, they have to remain true to themselves to see if the girl will actually love them for them. Secondly, they will need to get their timing right. And thirdly, they will need to be as honest as possible all throughout the journey. Here are more steps that you need to follow to get yourself a girlfriend:-

SIBG’s Guide For Finding A Girlfriend

  • Prepare yourself for the challenge.

You need to prepare yourself for the challenge of getting a girlfriend before even trying to get one. This means that you have to build up your self-confidence in order to be able to approach your potential girlfriend because girls find confidence utterly sexy. This plays a key important role if you want to seduce a woman. This means that you have to take control of every situation when she is around, as well.

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  • Use covert hypnosis.

We’ll cut the crap and jump straight to the chase. We arm our newbies (new joiners of the Baltimore Seduction Lair) with a shortcut technique that will give them the “superpowers” to attract women in the shortest time possible. Covert hypnosis techniques (also known as the female psychology loopholes) are super useful in making women fall in love quickly. The grand-daddy of all covert hypnosis techniques, fractionation, is perhaps the easiest to use, but one of the most effective “forbidden seduction pattern”, ever.

To learn more about fractionation and how you can use it to seduce women in less than 10 minutes, click here.

  • Pay attention to your grooming.

Good grooming happens to be an important part in improving your overall physical appearance. Girls hate guys who have bad breath and bad odor, in general. Because of this, you need to pay more attention to your looks if you want to impress girls and look more confident in their eyes.

  • Create social proof.

Ask her these questionsIn a nutshell, social proof refers to the social hints that you give to other people. If you constantly surround yourself with gorgeous girls, for example, you can make your dream girl think that you are the type of guy that every girls wants. In meeting women, you’d most likely to get noticed if you are accompanied by women. This will, in turn, make her want you, as well.

Creating social proof (real or fake) is something that members of the Baltimore Seduction Lair talk about often during our debriefings every Saturday. (Email me at matt@sibg.com if you are in town, and want to join)

Having said that, it would therefore be vital for you to talk to as many gorgeous girls as possible, especially if the girl that you are actually eyeing is around to see you work your magic. Once she thinks that you are in high demand, she will start running after you herself. After all, girls love competitions and challenges, so this will definitely work well in your favor.

  • Look into online dating.

If you are convinced that the traditional methods of dating will simply never work out for you, then today is your lucky day because there are other uncommon strategies that you can look into to get a girlfriend nowadays, as well, such as online dating.

SIBG.comA lot of guys actually go online to look for girlfriends nowadays because they do not need to worry about social proof or pay attention to their grooming until they actually have to meet the girls that they like. The best part is that there are various dating websites available on the World Wide Web nowadays that accommodates all sorts of people’s needs. In fact, there is no doubt that online dating has solved a lot of dating problems for guys within the past few years. And if you need a guide, we recommend Derek Rake’s Online Dating Playbook (or known as ODP in the inner circles of seduction).

And don’t forget that SIBG.com is a deep knowledge base from which you can learn from. 🙂

  • Make yourself look good online.

If you decide to look into online dating, then you will need to know how to make yourself look good online. Derek Rake talks a lot about this inside the Online Dating Playbook program. This means that you have to create an attractive profile that like-minded girls will be interested in enough to talk to you. This would also involve posting nice profile pictures of yourself and making time to talk to the girls that you meet. This will ensure that you know her inside and out before you fully commit to her. Ideally, you should try out video chatting with the girls that you like before you meet them in person, as well.

  • Know where to take her.

Whether you meet a girl online or offline, where you take her on the first date would be absolutely important. The chances of flirting is about to increase if you know where to take her. Your best bet in this department would be to take her somewhere public. This will help you avoid the temptation of going too far on your first date. Above all things, you need to be confident, sincere and honest at all times. If you aren’t, then you could screw things up later down the road if you end up going out again and again.

  • Ask for another date.

If your first date goes well, don’t forget to let her know that you had a good time and that you would love to see her again. This will score you major brownie points with her and make her think about you more, too – win, win!

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With covert hypnosis, you’ll be able to make quality women fall in love with you.

  • Use covert hypnosis – again!

We have covered this above, and re-stating this because of how important it is. Many guys give up on seduction because there is a learning curve – it does not have to be so difficult! One of the shortcuts that a guy can use is fractionation – a covert psychology tactic that is reputedly enable a man to seduce any woman in 10 minutes from start till finish:-

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Fractionation in Seduction (Free Video)

But make no mistake about it – there will be work required; you cannot expect to just watch a video and immediately seduce Angelina Jolie into your arms. But learning fractionation is a good start because you’ll see good results with phone numbers and kisses. 🙂

Go get ’em!

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