Dating and Attraction

Good Questions to Ask a Girl

July 23, 2013 By Shogun Method team Leave a Comment

Introduction from Matthew (matt@sibg.com): I have asked Patrick Forest (our guest instructor from Australia) to talk about the questions to ask a woman when seducing her online. Now these are also useful in face-to-face situations: just adapt!

The following article has been transcribed from a talk given by Patrick Forest to Baltimore Seduction Lair in March. Patrick is an all-time hustler and seducer with a head full of hair even at 40!

So look here, my SIBG.com brothers. If you are interested in trying out online dating, then you need to know that it isn’t just about filling your profile page with little details and pictures about yourself. You will also have to learn how to interact with girls well. As such, you might want to learn some good questions to ask a girl online before actually asking her out.

Naturally, you will also need to keep in mind that the ultimate key to succeeding in online dating is to create attraction with a girl as soon as possible. Fortunately, girls are emotional creatures, so all you have to do is make an impact on their emotions and ask the right questions in order to get them to like you.

For online dating to be a success, you have to ask the RIGHT questions.

Here’s online dating 101. Before you try to win a girl over, though, you have to decide what kind of girl you want to meet online first. There wouldn’t be any point in running after all of them because girls won’t find that attractive. Since there are so many girls to choose for online, though, the best way to go about it would be to ask several girls certain questions that will tell you more about them. Make sure you have fun while you do this, though, so you can successfully create attraction while finding out more about each girl’s personality.

Question Number One: What do you do on weekends?

This question is pretty self-explanatory and you can change it as needed. If the girl’s profile page already mentions what she does on weekends, for example, you can ask her something about her favorite activities instead. The best thing about this question is that it is safe, but can still be a fun way to find some things that you have in common with a girl. It serves as a great icebreaker, too.

Question Number Two: Have you met any guys that you really don’t like online?

smartphone — **Ask her what she does on weekends. You might find out you have a lot more in common than you thought.**

Make sure you add some playfulness into the mix here, so you can start up some good banter as time goes by. Asking this question won’t just make you stand out from the other guys that girls meet online, but it will also show girls that you think differently, in general. This will, in turn, create attraction in no time.

Question Number Three: Do you enjoy online dating?

As usual, make sure you add some playfulness into the mix here because the whole point is to come up with interesting and fun conversations. Make sure you pay close heed to her answers, too, since you could learn a lot from her previous experiences in online dating this way. Plus, you will be able to find out more about what she likes and what she dislikes through her answers.

Don’t think that it’s just online dating. A study shows that the most successful marriages are from online dating. As mentioned earlier, these three questions aren’t exactly set in stone or anything, so you can change them up anytime, as needed. As a matter of fact, it would be best to change them according to your current situation and your overall personality. Besides, using canned questions and lines that don’t suit your style might just throw girls off – remember that.

Bonus Tip: Use Covert Hypnosis

Finally, when you ask a girl these questions, insert some hypnotic phrases in order to build and deepen the attraction. Now if you’re already a senior member of SIBG then you should already know these covert tricks at the back of your hand. Matt told me that you guys worship at the altar of Derek Rake, and I can personally attest to the effectiveness of Derek Rake’s techniques… in particular, fractionation.

But before you delve into that technique, know this – I am convinced that there is a conspiracy to STOP newbies or people outside the ‘circle’ to learn about fractionation. We can understand this; the fact is that the less people know this then it’s better for the rest of us.

Matt is concerned that some guys misuse this technique and use it to mistreat women. So, if you are out there to “take revenge” on women who have been rejecting you, then don’t learn fractionation. I am serious. Don’t.

Now if you are one of the “good guys” then check this out.

What Women Want

July 17, 2013 By Shogun Method team 2 Comments

A lot of men wonder what women want, but always get different answers thrown at them – if any at all. Unfortunately, since times tend to change, women tend to change, as well. Plus, every woman tends to be different, so there aren’t actually any specific traits that every woman would want in a man. Fortunately, there are some common traits out there that women might look for. Of course you would want her to like you the natural way. But there are traits you don’t have but could work on. If you have them, you can then make yourself look much more attractive in the eyes of today’s modern woman. Here’s what they are:

Being a Gentleman

Although most modern women are independent, they will still swoon for men who open doors for them, are respectful and are real gentlemen. Not because men fall in love at first sight doesn’t mean that women, too. So, if you respect women, in general, then you will instantly get brownie points for that.

Being Sensitive

sensitiveman — Women love spontaneity. Surprise her with gifts – big or small – and she will sure fall under your spell.

To melt a woman’s heart, it would help to be kind, considerate and a little spontaneous. Try giving her flowers on a random day, for example. As mentioned earlier, most modern women are independent, but they still enjoy getting pampered and surprised every now and then. So, if you make her feel special, she is sure to love you for it.

Being Mature

Since security and maturity are closely intertwined, a lot of women nowadays prefer dating older men. So, if you seem mature and responsible, women will think more highly of you.

Being Confident

Men who are sure of themselves, but aren’t too arrogant, would be frontrunners in women’s selection of people to date. This is because confident men look like they can deal with any obstacle that might come their way. Being confident is, in itself, a seduction technique. They also look like they can take care of anybody or anything – their women included.

Having the Power to Provide

provider — Women usually think long-term, so a man who could well provide for her is totally attractive.

Women tend to think in the long term. Since men have always had the role of providing for the family for as long as women can remember, knowing that a man will be able to provide for a family is one of the traits that women look for. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be rich in order to win a woman over. However, if you can show her that you are capable of taking care of her, then she will feel much safer around you and will become more attracted to you in the long run.

Looking Good

Although looks aren’t as important to women as they are to men, they still play a part in the list of traits that women look for in a man. Getting her to love you needs you to exert some effort.

Now, even if the traits here don’t sound anything like you, there is no need to feel bad. As long as you are willing to learn how to get these traits or know that you have the potential of inheriting them in the future, then you would be a prime candidate for women who are currently on the lookout for men that they can date, marry or just be in a relationship with. Besides, no matter what women want, love will find a way in the end, anyway. Just have faith.

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.

SIBG Guide On How to Ask a Girl Out On A Date

May 28, 2013 By Shogun Method team 1 Comment

Some guys find it extremely hard to ask a girl out. To others, it is something that just comes naturally. Of course, there are cases where everything just depends on the girl that is being asked, as well. Either way, though, any guy can ask a girl out, whether they do it through a text message or in person. The key merely lies in asking the girl in a way that will get her to agree to your request. Naturally, rejections are inevitable sometimes; but the way that you ask a girl really can make a difference a lot of the time.

To Plan or Not to Plan

This may sound difficult, but the expert seducer doesn’t plan things out too much. In fact, a lot of the time, it would be highly advisable not to plan things out at all. That’s what we do here in Baltimore. 🙂

While some details are important to know before asking a girl out, planning things out too much may make things seem unnatural and may cause confusion if the girl doesn’t follow the script that you had planned in your head. It would really be ideal to just go with the flow when it comes to this.

One of the things that you do need to think about beforehand, though, is where you will be taking her on the date. At the very least, you should already have some ideas in mind before you approach her. Girls generally hate hearing the words, “I don’t know” when asking guys where they will be going on a date. So, try to find out a bit more about the girl beforehand and plan it out. If she seems sporty, plan out something adventurous. If she seems more of an indoorsy type, then invite her to the movies. The most important thing, though would be to know exactly where you want to take her before asking her out. One of our lair members started this forum thread for date ideas in Baltimore – you might find it useful. And if you’re of the mature demographic then find more ideas here.

If you are having trouble figuring out what kind of girl she is for now, then stay safe and suggest something casual and fun. Remember: if you keep things simple and just aim to get to know her better during the date and nothing else, then your chances of getting her to go out with you will be much higher. And if you can’t tell whether she likes you or not, then this isn’t the right time to flirt with her. Watch a movie, go bowling or have some coffee together on your first date. You can even bring your friends if you want to ease the pressure while getting to know her. If things end up going well, then you can start planning some alone time with her in the future.

It would also be important to remember that not all girls are fond of nervous guys, which is why it would be best to ask a girl out at a time when you are feeling calm and collected. At the very least, you should seem at ease when you ask her out and don’t just jump the gun when you do it, either. Start with some small talk, laugh and smile when appropriate, and then casually say, “We should go out sometime.” when the time is right. Don’t forget to look straight into her eyes and smile when you deliver that line, either. Also, try not to anticipate a positive response. It would be best to be ready for anything, so that you won’t have any trouble dealing with rejection in case you end up disappointed. (Remember: the best way to pick up girls is to keep them in “HOT” mode.)

If she hints through text, then you may ask her through text nicely.

There are times where an opportunity to ask a girl out may present itself out of nowhere. If this happens, then you will need to act on the opportunity that is given to you right away. It would be important to make sure that you are presentable when you ask her out, though. Make sure you smell good, too, so that she warms up to the idea of going out with you and wants to get closer to you. The reasons why you want to go out with her in the first place is because you want her to like you. Make sure you look good, as well, so that the thought of spending hours on a date with you will be more appealing to her. Popping some breath mints wouldn’t hurt, either. If she hints through text, then ask her through text the nicest way possible.

Her Verdict!

As you can see, asking a girl for a date really isn’t as difficult as most guys make it out to be. However, she may already make up her mind on whether she would want to go out with you or not before you even ask her the question. So, while the manner in which you ask her could sway her decision into a favorable one for you, success may hinge on her overall interest in you before you even ask her out. To boost her interest in you even before you ask her, read this little guide.

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.

The SIBG Formula On Getting An Ex-Girlfriend Back

May 28, 2013 By Shogun Method team 1 Comment

Do you want to learn how to get an ex back because you can’t seem to get rid of the heartbreak and pain that you are currently feeling from your breakup? Have you already tried to convince your ex to get back together with you, but she refuses to budge?

Most adults have experienced a breakup at least once in their lives, and a lot of them just move on from it. However, if you aren’t ready to admit defeat or play the victim and are actually willing to put in some effort in getting your ex back, then read on.

The Truth

The truth is that most breakups are reversible. You just need to know which steps to take. That’s right. No matter why you might have broken up, you can reverse things. You just need to learn how to bottle up your feelings for now; otherwise, you could end up making a big mistake and lose your ex forever because of it.

Another thing that you need to do is ask yourself why you want to get back together with your ex. Try to figure out what you really want for yourself and for your future relationship, as well. Do you really love your ex? If so, then keep those feelings bottled up and avoid doing anything impulsive or irrational. It wouldn’t be smart to do anything desperate, either – and that includes giving in to techniques that involve manipulation and guilt.

Acceptance

Now, this might sound harsh, but you have to accept that your relationship is currently over. Before thinking of getting her back, accept that you have just broken up. You also have to keep in mind that anything that you do right now can make or break your chances of getting your ex back. So, if you simply accept your ex’s decision to break up for now, she will know that you care and that you still respect her despite everything – and that would definitely be a bonus point in the right direction!

After accepting the decision, you may want to lay low and mull things over on your own for a while. Figure out why you broke up in the first place. While you may not have the power to go back and change the past, you can still learn from any mistakes that you might have done or, at the very least, grow from whatever it is that happened between the two of you.

If you need peer support, and you are in the Baltimore area, join our lair (contact details at the bottom).

Things to Avoid

Some breakups happen because of a single event, behavior or action that the other person simply wasn’t able to handle anymore. Regardless of what the reason behind your breakup might be, though, you have to find out what the specifics are, so that you can deal with it later on. While doing all of these things may get your ex back, you may want to learn how to keep your new relationship intact this time around, too. If this is the case, then here are some of the things that you need to avoid like the plague:

Whether your ex is the one who can't stop texting, remember that you should stop talking for now. — Whether your ex is the one who can’t stop texting, remember that you should stop talking for now.

1. Contacting Your Ex.

Whether your ex is the one who won’t stop texting, emailing or calling you; or if you are the culprit behind your current communication levels, you need to stop talking to each other for now. Even if you want nothing more than to make sure your ex stays in your life, so that she won’t slip away from your grasp; you have to let her fly free for a while. After all, nobody likes a needy and desperate ex – and that includes your ex.

2. Releasing Your Emotions.

You have to let your emotions calm down while staying away from your ex. While staying away from her, dwell on your past relationship and – as mentioned earlier – think about why you failed as a couple. Make sure you are very honest when it comes to this, though, so you can learn from your mistakes properly.

3. Keeping Your Pride Up.

You need to stop being so proud and just let your ex go, regardless of why you broke up in the first place. Stop thinking about her altogether, if possible. Believe it or not, your nonchalance will help you win your ex back again later on. In the meantime, learn how to meet other women – click here for the corresponding guide on SIBG. Most importantly, re-learn all your seduction techniques – especially flirting.

You might be down in the dumps right now, but you should know that love is hardly ever the reason behind bad breakups. So, if you play your cards just right and behave correctly, you should have no trouble getting your ex back in no time. All you have to do is follow the aforementioned steps and you will be all good to go. Good luck!

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.

Getting Her To Love You – An SIBG Primer Seduction Guide

May 27, 2013 By Shogun Method team 7 Comments

Face it: it is hard to learn how to get a girl to love you. No matter what other “seduction gurus” say. It’s friggin’ hard.

Yes, it has always been hard for most guys to do, but the truth is that it doesn’t have to be. In all honesty, most guys only have a hard time because they go into the game believing that it will be hard. As such, they tend to overlook the easy and effective ways on winning a girl over.

If you have been into the dating scene for quite a while, you know that getting a girl to fall in love with you comes in steps. It starts with meeting women, then seducing them to like you. And both of them are completely different from having her fall in love with you.

If you are absolutely determined to win over the girl of your dreams, though, then you need to learn about forbidden psychology and how to use techniques of forbidden psychology to win your dream girl over. Forbidden psychology has actually been causing quite a stir in the dating world lately because of the “forbidden” word. Everyone knows that the forbidden fruit tastes great, right? Well, it should because it really works!

Getting a girl to fall in love is hard. But it doesn't have to be. — Getting a girl to fall in love is hard. But it doesn’t have to be.

In a nutshell, forbidden psychology refers to a collective principle that involves persuasion, hypnosis and psychology. Although it is a closely guarded secret, a lot of guys now learn about it to successfully attract the girls that they like.

Forbidden Psychology…?

Here are several forbidden psychology techniques that you can use to get any girl to fall for you:

Practice Mind Manipulation.

One easy and effective way to win over a girl would be to go through her mind. That’s right. Dominating the thoughts of a girl can bring about incredibly successful results in the dating game. All that you have to do is use contradictory responses to mess up a girl’s head and derail her initial repulsive reactions.

Create Mind Confusion.

Mind confusion literally involves messing with a girl’s mind and her thoughts. Unlike mind manipulation, though, it doesn’t involve complete mind control; just mere mind confusion. Basically, if you keep confusing a girl, thoughts of you will start to invade her mind and create a subconscious obsession with you in it. You should alternate the attracted feelings to the reserved feelings when it comes to this, too, so that you can really confuse her. A shrewd technique like this will give you might better chances of winning a girl over with mind confusion.

Create a permanent presence in her mind so she thinks about you wherever she goes.

Create a Permanent Presence.

Another forbidden psychology technique involves creating a permanent presence in a girl’s mind. If you get this technique right, you should be able to make a girl think about you wherever she goes. If you succeed at doing this, that girl will also develop an instant attachment to you, which is great because you won’t have to do much work at all after that. The attraction and desire will just come on their own.

Stare into Her Eyes.

Just like in regular hypnosis, you can attract a girl by staring into her eyes and make her feel like you are boring into her soul by doing so. This may be a bit tricky when it comes to forbidden psychology because some girls find it rude when guys stare for too long. However, if you are having a deep conversation, you should be able to captivate her into focusing on you, too. If you do, then you can easily make her feel at ease with your staring, make her feel closer to you because of it and eventually even make her obsessed with you, too.

Incorporate Reverse Psychology Techniques.

Forbidden psychology techniques will work even better when used in conjunction with reverse psychology techniques. Have you ever noticed that women don’t usually say what they feel, but the exact opposite? That’s because women are into reverse psychology. And admit it, reverse psychology is effective! So, if you ever find yourself argon or fighting with a girl, give up and take her side every once in a while. Although this would entail giving up on a fight even when you are certain that you are right, you can make her think that she will always get her way if you do end up going out. If you think long and hard about it, this really is just a small price to pay to get a girl to fall for you.

Caution

Keep in mind that all of the unconventional psychology techniques mentioned above need to be used with the utmost caution, though. Generally speaking, any kind of psychology technique could be dangerous if overused and may even backfire if used in the wrong way.

A final note…

The good news is that seducing girls through psychology is always effective and successful if done right and in moderation. This is because girls are practically hardwired to listen to their hearts instead of their minds. So, if you follow the aforementioned techniques to a tee, you can get any girl of your choice to fall in love with you in no time.

For more (rather insidious!) mind control seduction techniques on how to manipulate (and emotionally enslave) a woman, click here.