How to Chat with Women – SIBG’s Small Talk Guide

For some reason, a lot of men get awkward and shy when they think about learning about how to chat with women. They worry about getting embarrassed or rejected and then, in turn, end up avoiding women altogether. To avoid this yourself, here’s what you have to do.

Accept Rejection

If you can accept that rejection is just a part of the game, then you will have a much easier time finding dates overall. Chatting with women is merely a game of numbers. So, talk to as many women as possible to amp up your confidence levels first and then, once you get a ton of phone numbers or dates, the amount of rejections that you encounter won’t even matter anymore.

Approach Women the Right Way

If you want women to pay attention to you, you need to learn how to approach women the right way first. To get rid of your anxiety, remind yourself that women get nervous, too. Then, take a deep breath, smile, approach the woman of your choice. and talk to her the way you would talk to a friend – nothing more.

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Break the Ice with Humor

Without a doubt, breaking the ice isn’t easy. However, as long as you have something funny up your sleeve, you should be fine. Women happen to find men with a sense of humor very attractive. Just make sure you keep the humor light-hearted, so she won’t feel threatened or get scared off. If you have trouble being funny, then try reading a couple of funny websites or books for some inspiration before heading out every time. Humor works, especially if you want to conquer a girl’s heart. 🙂

Focus on Your Body Language

On that note, it would be vital to always keep things light-hearted. If your conversation is going well, make it a point to smile and maintain eye contact, as well. A little flirting always goes a long way, if you know how to do it right. Body language plays a huge role in flirting. Also, women love confident men, so if you keep looking down or looking away, they will think you are hesitant and unsure of yourself.

Pay Attention

Show genuine interest in what women say to you and prove that you are really listening by commenting on what they say every now and then. If you ever feel yourself getting anxious, just take a deep breath, relax and calm down.

Always Have Something to Say

If you have no idea what to talk about, try to look around and find something that you can comment on. Is she wearing interesting jewelry? Is something going on around you? Open up any topic of your choice and just build on it from there. Once you find some common ground, you really shouldn’t have much trouble finding something to talk about from there. You can always send her seductive text messages every night, but it’s better if you can think of something interesting and speak up. If things still don’t work out anyway, then don’t worry. There are a lot of other women out there that you can chat with instead.

Believe it or not, women aren’t aliens from another planet. They have the exact same anxieties and feelings as men. While learning how to chat with women may take some practice, you are sure to become much better and more confident in doing so in the long run.

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