Here’s the hands-down most frequent question that I get from newbies here at the Seduction Initiatives Baltimore Group – “Matthew, how do I know if a girl likes me?” Indeed, it can be difficult to figure out how a girl really feels if you’re still in the early stage of seduction, and if nobody tells this to you already: NEVER ASK A GIRL DIRECTLY IF SHE LIKES YOU. That’s a surefire way to torpedo your chances into hell.
Dating somebody new or wondering whether you should ask a girl out can be extremely nerve-wrecking in these cases, but don’t worry – with this short SIBG guide you’ll be able to know for sure what she really thinks about you, and with this knowledge you’ll be able to strategize better into what you should do next – like what a pro SIBG seducer would do. 😉
Seven (7) Surefire Signs That She’s Really Into You
Now here’s SIBG.com’s best advice when it comes to looking for attraction signals, so listen up. Fortunately, girls use a lot of body language to send out signs to guys that they are interested in – and so what you need to do is to learn to identify these non-verbal signs like an expert. It’s as simple as that!
After learning how to approach a girl, knowing the signs that a girl likes you can therefore help you land your dream girl and conquer her once you have set your eyes on her.
- THE TWIRL – She Touches Her Hair. One common yet unconscious sign that a girl is flirting with you is if she touches her hair repeatedly. Whenever girls talk to guys that they like, they twirl their hair unintentionally or run their hands through it to look more attractive and more feminine at the same time. It also doubles up as a sign of self-consciousness.
- THE EAR – She Listens to Every Word that You Say. Girls like to connect on both physical and emotional levels. So, if she keeps asking you personal questions and actually pays close attention to everything that you say, you can be sure that she is genuinely interested in getting to know you better overall. Also, if she likes you, she will laugh at your jokes – no matter how lame they might me. 😉 For a guide on seductive humor, click here.
- DIGITS – She Offers You Her Phone Number. If a girl likes you, she will personally make herself available to you. She will send you hints about when she is free and say that she would like to see you again sometime, as well. Unfortunately, not a lot of girls are fond of asking guys out. So, while a girl may want to go on a date with you, she may wait forever for you to approach her and make that first move instead of asking you straight out. (NOTE: if she doesn’t offer you her digits automatically, read this guide).
- THE LOOK – She Maintains Eye Contact. Strong eye contact would be another strong sign that a girl likes you. If she looks deep into your eyes whenever you talk, that basically means that she wants to connect with you on a deeper level and get closer to you.
- PROXIMITY – She Stands Near You. Girls like to stand close to guys that they like because it makes them feel comfortable and happy to do so. Whenever a girl stands near you, that basically means that she feels safe and secure in your presence. This would definitely be a strong sign that she likes you because girls generally maintain a bit of distance between themselves and guys that they have no interest in at all.
- KINO – She Finds Reasons to Touch You. Girls like to show their affection and interest in the opposite sex by touching them on the hands and arms.
- FLIRT – She Teases You. Flirting doesn’t always have to be physical; it can involve words and the way that girls communicate with you. In fact, if a girl always tries to make you laugh by teasing you and if she works hard to connect with you, then that is already one of the clearest signs that a girl likes you.
And remember this…
It’s important to note that you do NOT have to score a perfect 7/7 to be entirely sure if she is interested in you. Indeed, if you ever get more than five of the attraction signals above then you should exit SIBG.com and start enjoying life as a superstar pickup artist. 🙂
Once you have identified at least one of the signs above, you will be in a great position to use super strong techniques such as fractionation in order to make her go completely head over heels with you. But before you use this technique, I must first warn you…
With its reputation as one of the most powerful seduction techniques ever, fractionation (or in one of its variations known as the October Man Sequence) has been kept under wraps by the elders of the seduction community for many years. This is because it has the potential to harm a woman emotionally if not done properly.
If you decide to use this technique, it’s important to me that you promise NOT TO HARM WOMEN WITH IT. Using fractionation, you will be able to “hack” into a woman’s mind and do whatever you like with it.
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Now go get ’em!
Ryan Sherman says
Maybe the you should talk or eat together that would be nice !! and she getting bills after you eat maybe that girls like you :))
Yes, definitely right.
Blow jobs are usually a sure sign.
Matthew Ganz says
That’s the 8th sign, for sure!
Manfred William Tell says
Oh crap, you’re so funny brother!
I have a colleague who used to work in my office whom I fell in love with. She used to wear a wonderful perfume. I never told her anything due to professional reasons.
She was transferred to another office and we started regular chats via an internal communicator system. What used to be just professional became very personal.
I ended up telling her that I loved her perfume and it was very feminine and nice….She told me “why don’t you buy it and give it to someone?” …I said…”how about if someone doesn’t like it ?”…she said….”you can buy it for your next someone”…….Hmmm…interesting conversation……what do you think ?
Matthew Ganz says
A sure interest indicator. Important to keep building up the attraction, and then move on to comfort phase.
See, i like someone named sarah. And she does all of the above, besides #6. So, how would i know sf she still likes me?
Matthew Ganz says
All you need is just one or two of these signals. Then move on to build up attraction, and move on to comfort phase. Read SIBG.com religiously. 🙂
Those are all signs that a girl is flirting with you, but they aren´t at all unconscious actions girls fall into when they like a guy. They use the same techniques on guys they want attention from, but they are not really interested on sleeping with, or dating at all.
Girls use those techniques also to keep guys “friend-zoned” when they feel like they are drifting away.
I´m sure you´re a super casanova, and might have mastered seduction techniques, but guys without your skill could be confused.
When a girl is really into you, not just consciously flirting, you should look at the “mistakes” she makes while flirting (overflirting, trying too hard to keep her cool and stuff) If she gives you explanations you never asked for while telling you a story, about why she did something, it´s likely that she´s really into you, and doesn´t want you to think lower of her, those are the kind of signs that give her away. If she´s flirting, she may not be into you at all, she may just be flattering herself with your attention.
Matthew Ganz says
That’s a very valid point. A woman player will know these signs and then “fake” them in order to trap a guy.
It takes experience to catch a woman player. Comes with practice! 🙂
Kay Cee says
There is no such thing as a woman player. Take this from a REAL PLAYA.. The only way to ensure you are not being played is by asking her to do things for you, and make sure that even if you are doing things for her, what she does for you is of higher worth. This is the ONLY way to identify a woman that is into you. Period dot.
this is actually pretty accurate. Now that you say that, when i hang out with this girl that i think she’s in to me, i sometimes act lazy and ask her to do pretty basic stuff for me, she would always act like bashing on me but in a funny way and would do it anyway while laughing to each other.
Issac Roscow says
Ok so in school I have a crush on melody, I always tease her and normally in class she responds by calling names back at me But then ,Matthew my best bro had a crossword puzzle which she showed her name on it I called her that then she smiled slightly and stared at me which then she turned her head around. Does she like me?
yes bro she really loves you
Mir Moien says
Please help me, how can i know, I have a crush on a girl at my school, she always smiles when looking at me, she always touchs her hair when looking at me, but i have no conversation with her, how cn i know does she likes or loves me….
lawrence royce delos santos says
i know a girl, we live in one house with my cousin, she always make jokes that make me smile every time . . . XD .
is that a sign?? 😀 .
Hi there all, here every one is sharing these knowledge,
thus it’s good to read this blog, and I used to
visit this website all the time.
If she walks with you without you really asking or suggesting it is that a sign? I mean I will be talking with her as we walk to her next class then once we are their she doesn’t peel off to go to the class or stop talking and say bye, so I just continue to walk around with her, at the same time there is a silent period and so I sit at a bench and she just stands next to me and listens to me and responds to my questions and comments, but completely forgets what she is or was supposed to be doing, so I reminder her and so I walk her back to her class but then she says bye before we get there and walks over to her friends. Is she just fuckin with me or am I not reading the signs? If so what do I do next?? Today I gave her her space and didn’t talk to her today but was in the same place as her sometimes, so I try not to notice or look at her but out of the corner of my eye I see her look back hearing my voice. I am confused on what to do next I mean I have looked at this site and done these techniques before but that was years ago, I had completely forgotten about this site until now. So i am here asking for help what do I do, Preferably Matt.
If the girl I like walks with you without you really asking or suggesting
it is that a
sign? I mean I will be talking with her as we walk to her next class then
once we are their she doesn’t peel off to go to the class or stop talking
and say bye, so I just continue to walk around with her, at the same time
there is a silent period and so I sit at a bench and she just stands next
to me and listens to me and responds to my questions and comments, but
completely forgets what she is or was supposed to be doing, so I reminder
her and so I walk her back to her class but then she says bye before we get
there and walks over to her friends. Is she just fuckin with me or am I not
reading the signs? If so what do I do next?? Today I gave her her space and
didn’t talk to her today but was in the same place as her sometimes, so I
try not to notice or look at her but out of the corner of my eye I see her
look back hearing my voice. I am confused on what to do next I mean I have
looked at this site and done these techniques before but that was years
ago, I had completely forgotten about this site until now. So i am here
asking for help what do I do, Preferably Matt.
In my office there is a girl whom first unknowingly i saw her. then later that has turned so deep i was in love. but when i saw her she turns her head away, sometimes she sees me i can feel it.
does she like me, shall i propose to her
Just ask her on a date first start with a lunch date then, if things go well at the end of your date tell her, “Hey I think your a pretty great woman, can I take some of your time for dinner some night?” And if she says yes to that your pretty much set. The thing I have learned is to take those leaps of faith and straight out ask her, if she says no just drop her off the radar, and if she says she’s busy constantly when you ask her she just doesn’t think your worth her time to open up an hour and a half of her time for you.
Good luck and write back.
Don’t you think you should ask her out first, instead of going straight for the marriage? Just saying…
khumalo nqobizitha says
if some loves you for real they will do something in their powerful to show. don’t. asume,don’t use emotions but use mind.
I like this girl. She stares at me a lot, but we don’t really talk. But like I said before she stares so much. So what do I do?
Those signs are not 100% sure that a girl like you. Some use to sign to draw attention of guys even if they dont like you. Especially those guys that are not sharp. In order to make demand request from a guy to cater for them. So u will think she like u not knowing that are lust. When u stop offering them help and satisfying their want they will change completely.
I’m so in love with this girl named Xavia. I deeply truly am in love. Problem is we barely see each other in person, the only time we talk is usually at school or we would text. She said to me that she likes it when I’m around her then other guys. Does that mean she likes me?
Kay Cee says
No. It proves nothing. Make her prove that she likes you by doing nice things for you.
Kay Cee says
Stop looking for “signs” that she likes you. You will only get confused by the many users out there. Require her to take “actions” that “prove” she likes you. Make her cook for you, take you out, buy you gifts, make trips to see you. Etc. if she is not engaging in “actions” that “prove” she likes you, you are wasting your time.
Women make men “prove” their feelings buy asking for dates, gifts, money, etc.
Remember guys, you are a prize also!
The hell, man? Women don’t have to buy you gifts to “prove themselves”, as long as she cares about you, that’s enough damned proof. Get some class, kid.
So there’s a special woman that I like a lot, but I don’t think I have the balls to ask her out or tell her how I feel. I’m not really friend-zoned either. She pays more attention to me than other guys usually. Should I go for it or am I the one being a little baby? I’m just too scared of losing her as she is the perfect woman and all the guys I’ve talked to about her says she is a perfect 10/10.
There is a girl who comes into where I work who I fancy. When she comes up to the counter she smiles and says hi. Sometimes she makes small conversations and sometimes when our eyes meet she smiles and looks away? Is she interested in me?
You should make your first impression with I notice we smile @ each other a lot can we have fun over dinner because I would really love to take you out….and cross your fingers because 9/10 your first instinct is right
Well this girl has did all of those for me believe it or not but i dunno.. I’m still not sure. She’s comes to sit next to me in class and fidgets with stuff. I catch her looking at me and when I notice she looks a couple more seconds and she tries and make me laugh but she says I’m “so funny”.
I guess if she likes me (it’s obvious now LOL) but how should I make the first move because she’s shy also? Yes, she’s hot LOL
If you are sure she likes you, then try to start a conversation about her favorite movie. Sometimes just start with a simple “hi”!
Anyway, ask her about the movie, then say something like “Sounds like a good movie. Can I watch it with you sometime?”
This woman works at a wholesaler I shop at. She has been he most beautiful woman I know since I met her 15 years ago. She was married up till about 2 1/2 years ago, so I just thought she was a pretty woman.
1 year ago she changed jobs within the wholesaler so now she works at the counter and helps me directly. My Marriage started falling apart a year ago and I am separated now. At the time my marriage started deteriorating I started have huge feelings for the beautiful woman. She is very social and into fitness and so I have taken up running and lifting weights.
She hugged me at the only social event (Christmas party hosted by her co-worker) and told me she was happy I came out and was having fun.
I don’t know if I am in the friend zone and rely on this wholesaler for my business. I have seen her twirl her hair, laugh at my stupid jokes and she has shared some personal info with me. She touched me the other day and it almost sent me to the moon. I suppose I just need to ask her to dinner but am terrified to find she won’t accept or worse do it because she feels bad for my situation at home. Advice?
Same guy from above. Try that
Recently I went out with girl, and I had made the mistake of showing my hand too early. Then I realized I was being mind-fucked. I quickly backed off and told her I wasn’t as into her as I thought. In short, I left the ball in her court. Is it too late to recover?
She gave me her number so I could contact her about something about work… and since then we message about 100 times a day (not every day though). She did messaged me when I was on holiday. So, is she into me or playing me?
Does a girl like you if she occasionally pats you on the head or rustle with your hair in class when she walks by?
Hi I have recently fell in love with a friend. We met about a year ago, but got closer recently. As far as I am concerned, she never rejected me if I ask her out to hangout (tennis, walks, dine, etc.). We do not see each other everyday but we communicate often via text. When we hang out, we can chat for hours…time flies when I am with her. I am terrible at identifying body languages but she does not mind if I touch her (appropriately). Last night, she insisted on paying for our dinner because ‘I taught her how to drive and I paied for the last dinner we had together.’ Do you think I have a good chance of confronting her successfully? This is sort of vague but any opinions will be greatly appreciated. Thanks! And we are both 20.
I just need to know one thing about this topic – does this come from a guy’s or a girl’s perspective?
If I could get a followup on that it would be greatly appreciated.
There is this girl who points her finger at my, ahem, nose. Does she like me?
I think she’s just trying to stretch her fingers
So I am a manager and girl I worked with many years ago started work with me again. I have always had a huge crush on her but she she is married so I didn’t do anything about the crush at the first job.
Now she is under me and I am her boss. So not really in a position to hit on her. I catch her looking at me when we are in meetings. She has told me her husband was cheating on her and she didn’t know what to do I told her he was a jerk and she deserved better.
She is still with him but she continues to flash signs of niceness but I am not sure if it is because we have known each other for awhile and I am her boss. Today she was in my office because her attendance has been bad so I told her she needed to come to work on time… and since I think highly of her I was going to change her time so she could keep her job.
She told me I’m going to have to take you to lunch sometime. Not sure if she is only being friendly. She told me her birthday was last weekend and that her husband got her a pinata and it was fun. I told her my birthday was on Friday and she asked me what I was going to do. Told her I wasn’t sure… she then tells me, “oh you are a Leo like me!”. I said yes and she said, “That is why I like you.”
So what do you think? Does she have a crush on me and wants to be with me or is she just being nice to her boss?
There is this girl I am head over heels for but we don’t see each other that often.
Anyway my mom and her mom are meeting up and me and her are coming too. When we last saw each other , she would play with her hair a bit, and talk a lot, but didn’t pay much interest when I was talking or make much eye contact at all. It may be because our parents were there but I’m not sure . Is she into me?
What do you think ?
There’s this girl at my college who I have recently met. We got to know eachother through a matual friend. She talks on text, but not straight back all the time. But she is shy.
We meet up often in our free gaps and it’s really easy to strike up conversations and we talk non stop. She also says yes when I ask to meet up, all the time.
She listens intently and remembers things which I say. But, she doesn’t really touch me. She keeps eye contact thouroughly and laughs at all my jokes
Any help as to what I should do?