The Art of Seduction Texting — The SIBG Guide

Did you finally get the cell phone number of the woman that you have been eyeing for a while? Are you on top of the world, but aren’t exactly sure how to phrase your first text to her in order to convince her to go out on a date with you in the end? Of course, you don’t want to ruin anything, so here are several patented tips that can help you increase your chances of getting that woman to go out with you – just by seducing her through text.

One of the first things that our new Baltimore Seduction Lair members learn is to how to master the art of texting. It’s important to remember that texting is a great gateway for you to know a girl better! In fact, if you want to know how to flirt with a girl, you have to know how to use the art of seduction texting to your favour.

How to text a girl

SIBG’s Ultimate Guide To Texting – Five Tips On How To Text Her

  • Tip #1: Just Text Her… Apply The Three Second Rule!

There is absolutely no reason why you should overthink things or wait too long before texting a woman that you like. In fact, if a woman gives you her phone number, there will only be one reason behind it: she wants you to get in touch with her. So, what are you waiting for? It’s not like you need all the right, perfect words to make her your girlfriend in an instant. Just get in touch with her. Apply the three second rule. 😉

Make sure you keep your text message short and sweet, though. A simple text won’t just let her know that you are thinking about her and her well-being, but it will require her to respond as well.

But caution: your first text is often the most important simply because if it sucks, then it’s practically game over for you. Therefore, you must always get this right, the first time!

To make sure that I don’t mess it up, I like to “embed” certain hypnotic phrases in my first text: it’s something that I learned from Derek Rake when I studied under him for a couple of years. I’ll tell you more about this later, but it involves using this technique called “fractionation”.

Fractionation is one of the ten “forbidden hypnotic patterns” which is often used by the experts to build emotional rapport quickly with a woman. It works well both face-to-face and over text. To find out how fractionation works, click here for a guide.

  • Tip #2: Make Her Miss You.

Once you have started texting each other for a while, you can start to lay low eventually and stop replying to all of her texts.

This means that, if you aren’t too interested in her latest text, then don’t reply to it. Just lay low for the day and try texting her again the next day (or in two days) as if nothing had ever happened.

  • Tip #3: Use Emoticons or Emojis to Your Advantage.

Regardless of how playful and funny you may in real life, it may be hard to convey that playfulness and that humor through text. What you might not realize, though, is that you can use different emoticons to help you out when it comes to this. (Check SIBG regularly– we might as well do a specific post about this, soon!)

Be creative and try inventing some of your own emoticons while you’re at it, so she can ask you about them and know exactly what message you are trying to convey to her each time.

  • Tip #4: Practice Perfect Timing.

Believe it or not, timing every text before sending it would be vital in this department. Yahoo actually had an interesting article about this– click here to find out what’s the biggest texting turn-off for men and women. 🙂

Nice girl

She’ll wait for your text… when she becomes addicted to you!

Additionally, if she takes five minutes to reply to one of your texts, for example, you should try and time your response to five minutes after her texts, too. Ideally, you should take your time most of the time and keep her guessing if you will ever respond or not. This is sure to drive her crazy!

Now, while it may be true that perfect timing can definitely help you out when seducing a woman through text, there are other things that you will need to do, too. Try to keep busy, for instance, and meet other women on the side (read this handy guide if you need help). If you keep busy, then you won’t worry too much about whether a woman is texting you or not. You will just enjoy the journey overall. 🙂

  • Tip #5: Use Fractionation.

Earlier in this guide I had mentioned about using fractionation over text. I have reserved this technique to the end because if you’ve read this far, you deserve this. 🙂

While most acknowledge the power of fractionation when used in face-to-face situations, some are downright skeptical on whether the technique could be used effectively over text. We have tested this over 1,000 interactions with women, and the answer is a resounding YES. Women seem to be wired the same way everywhere, and it seems that they respond to “embedded hypnotic commands” rather well too when delivered over text.

This means that we recommend using fractionation over text (and also through email and Facebook messages if you are wondering). Now if you are still unfamiliar with the technique, download this free guide here –

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▶ ▶ SIBG Guide To Fractionation ◀ ◀

It’s required reading (and watching) for all the members in the Baltimore Seduction Lair. Go check it out and you’ll know why.

Matt Ganz SIBG

-Matthew Ganz, founder, Baltimore Seduction Lair (

PS: If you’ve got any questions regarding this guide, just leave me a message below and I will email you back. 🙂


  1. I have a friend girl then she already has a suiter then we are only friends. how to get her lust ?

    • Well first you need to build rapport. Try watching how to do this with fractionation it’s really easy. After you have built enough rapport try this:
      – When in a conversation try looking at her left eye then right and then her mouth
      – Mix it up and start looking at her mouth a little longer (say 3 to 5 seconds)
      – Do this until she is doing it to you
      – After you see that happening say this:
      ,,It’s okay”
      She will ask ,,what, what’s okay?”
      You will say ,, You want to kiss me. I want to kiss you too” and you will get the kiss

      • Dude that’s not good advice, NEVER discuss or ask for a kiss before kissing. Just look for the subtle signs and go ahead and mooch on. I’ve learned from experience, Trust me haha.

        • i agree with Dane. and Marko no offense to you, but you’d be barking up the wrong tree if you bring that kiss thing up. regardless of your rapport level, women still need to be broken down a few more levels before they even give that up…unless that woman is really, really, really into you and really , really, comfortable with you that won’t happen. That or she’s super freaky and wants it real bad, but where’s the fun in that, you want a challenge not something that’s so easy

      • I know it will work man!!!

      • If I’m not mistaken that is something the tao of badass says right?

        • If she has a boo, dont push it. Wait it out but let her know that you’ll be there if it ends. Subtly, you’ll come off as creepy if you flat out say it

      • Paul Wong says:

        I’m scared of girls. I don’t know how talk to them when I get in front of them. I just can’t be myself when I am around girls! Can you help me out with my problem?

  2. Listen I’ve already wrecked it with a few girls texting, anyway I can win their hearts back?

  3. I have A big crush on this girl but she never really texts first, I always have to start it and usual it’s really stupid, I cant find out what to talk about with her with texts. Any help?

    • Talk about what you want to talk about, it puts you in control and she knows that.

    • To be sincere she’s shy and just bare with her for now then after a while you let her know,if she doesn’t make an effort of texting you first at least once then she ain’t worth it

  4. Pls there is dis fiancé of mine I cherish so much, we ve been together for 7 month but she doesn’t seem to be serious wit our relationship, all she’s after is for me to breakup wit her. I don’t what else she could ve expected from me because rather than showing her love nd care.

  5. Annie Onimus says:

    Hi, I appreciate you taking your time in writing this article, but there is one thing I want to critique. Being a girl myself I hate it when guys ignore/don’t read my texts, playing hard to get is fine, but don’t play hard to get over texts. My friend dumped her boyfriend because he ignored her texts for weeks. If you want to wait a while before texting, only wait a day or two. I agree with basically everything else. Good job.
    ~Annie Onimus

  6. there’s this cute girl whom i love but we friends and we love each but she want me to propose to her but i don’t know the words i will say for her to become my girlfriend

    • Go to her and say “I’ve been thinking about you a lot and I love you and I was also wondering if you’d do me the honors of being my girlfriend?”

  7. Okay so this girl led to a fight we start saying things then I told her sorry but she is like don’t talk to me she does not respond.

  8. Hi, I like this girl but it seems like m in her friendz zone. I also doubt that she’s into some relationship. as i have managed to get her number, i want to knw what exactly to text her. the method of eye contact u mentioned in reply to Ryle’s comment was tried by me but did not work. How is that it didn’t work for me?? Plz Help! I’ll call U on my wedding 😉

  9. i have been friends with this one girl, and i have liked her since the very first day i met her, i then told her how i feel about her and she said she feels the same way. we had a few moments, not too serious moments but when i asked her to take our friendship to the next level she turned me down. So what should i do to try win her over completely?

  10. Okay I have a huge crush on this girl n I’m wondering if she does to.okay she talks about me all the time to her family n I need help to try to get into a relationship with her but idk how to.can anyone help me

  11. Hello! I have a friend we just met on fb and had only chat 2 times.She replies my text’s after 3 to 4 minutes and doesn’t take any type of interest in me but i really love her. Any Guidance? waiting for reply


    • Observe and see what she is looking for, ask questions pretty easy if you know what to ask. Also use some reverse psychology mix it up, predict her timing on a reply and break down what she likes more, because it depends on the girls personality.

  12. I have this crush in this girl and I know she likes me more than a friend but also likes this other guy. I always text her first and start up the conversation. Anyway that I could win her heart instead of the other guy? Also she doesn’t meet up with the guy she likes and mostly has a text relationship. I’m the only guy that actually cuddles with her but she doesn’t realize the other guy won’t do that. PLEASE HELP ME OUT!!

  13. Keith Stadeli says:

    Hey how is everyone doing tonight my name is Keith Stadeli and I’m from Silverton Oregon.

  14. She helped me in getting over my ex. I have A big crush on this girl but she never really texts first, I always have to start it and usual it’s really stupid, I cant find out what to talk about with her with texts. Any help?

  15. I just met a girl for a first time and request for her phone number, but I always text her, she doesn,t respond.Help on this.

  16. hi, my gf answers me with one word, what can i do????????????????????

  17. Hey, there is this girl that I really like and she knows that I like her. I want to text her but don’t want to sound needy, or make it awkward. I don’t want to have to start all the conversations either. Help please?

  18. Hey.I’m texting a girl but I don’t know how can I start texting her or beginning with I say hey beautiful to her and how are you than what I should text her.can help me please in this situation.

  19. well it depends, so just text her the normal text as a start like hi how are you , how’s work/study/life, she will reply ” going well what about ya,, then you come up with something like i get a new car or did you heard this new song just come up with anything.

  20. I like a girl, I started conversation, then I helped her for her studies, and for the exchanging material she gave me her no. too. and even through text I’ve started conversation, but she doesn’t reply in full sentances, she is not textually active. and doesn’t chat much. I want to know whether she likes me or not? want to chat her for longer time. take this relationship beyond friendship. what to do please suggest me some workable Ideas… here, thanx.

  21. It seems as if i am following the right path, but who has time for slight slick moves.its a waste of time for us both and alot of pressure. I have other friends but it dont matter among the situation of us two always communicating and hanging out. (Texting and sharing) my confidence is well known but she see me for some reason as a close brother, not. What do I do next? I tried staying away off the scene for a while as if ive been out somewhere, not.I tried waiting five minutes before texting back. Im say she maybe wants secure-ness. Can you or any one level me on the next step without outbreaks.

  22. I had a crush on one my college mate who already been in a relationship. knowing the fact i stupidly proposed her being emotional,then apologized to her over a thousands times. Actually she was moving very close to me so i took it as she too likes me. Since from that day she never spoke a word to me she never replies to me,its been almost an year now can some one get me an idea to get her back as i love her soo much still.

  23. i have this girl i like and it seems that she likes me too. but i don’t know how to talk to her

  24. All you have to do is get her phone number and then start texting her – but don’t do it daily. Just text her twice a week so as you can get to know her better.

    Be her friend first and take things slow. Strong relationships start from being friends. Good luck!

  25. There is a girl at my school who I like so I got her Snapchat from her Instagram and I messaged her. At first things were good but now she keeps on not responding. Have I lost her?

  26. Just whip out your schlong. I know it sounds odd but it works 8 out of 11 times!

  27. There’s a girl I like and i think she knows. During a conversation I wanted to ask her a question (unrelated) I felt it was too personal to ask over text. She kept pushing me to ask. Was she trying to get me to ask her if she likes me? I’m confused.

  28. Hank Mardukas says:

    P.S.: We have a lot in common if that helps at all.

  29. John Cook says:

    Hey, there’s this girl I’ve been causal with for a while- we kiss a lot and do some other stuff, but I was wondering how to try and take it to the next level, a lot of our interaction is texting, we only see each other two days a week, she likes me as she has said so, but when we text I always seem to be trying to come up with something to say to her, what should you talk about with a girl like this ? Also she does sometines text first but when we actaully text she only answers what I ask or say- she never contributed much to the conversation- any idea why that is ?

  30. I like this girl but I don’t know what to say to her

  31. I left my husband almost 4 years ago. We are still married… He reads my emails and puts them in a folder.But never responds to them. Just to the one that I stated I was filing then he met me we talked 3 hours.. Claims he doesn’t want a divorce.I said I would not get one.. He knows I want him back…
    I send him daily text and emails.. right now I am trying to make him miss my text day one..LOL..
    What can I say to him in my emails to make him want me and come back to me??

  32. I tried to apply the steps to a girl i liked and it worked.Thank you S.I.B.G

  33. I’m curious, how can I get out of the friend zone with a girl that I’ve known for many years?

  34. Sebastian says:

    Texting a girl is something that I used to hate.

    I used to ask myself questions like, am I saying this right? Will she misinterpret this? Does this sound too needy?

    Fortunately; I came across a fascinating book that explains all of the subtle mechanics of text game with lots of effective examples of exactly what to say to get girls to text you back, come on dates, to get out the friend zone and he gives you great teases that get you to stay on a girls mind, so she’s thinking about you more than she would otherwise.

    I sure he won’t mind me sharing one of his text teases I use a lot – “I saw the cutest little squirrel gathering nuts today, made me think of you”.

    It’s great because it’s showing your sexual intent in a fun way; it’s a bit cheeky comparing her to a fluffy rodent. And it gets her thinking about you: because she’s now asking herself “Why did that make you think of me?”

    Women love talking about themselves and getting the girl to ask herself “Why did that make you think of me?” Is an easy way to get on her mind through text and be that guy that she’s thinking about.

  35. Uhm! I have a crush on this girl and she knows. The first time I told her that I love her she said she doesn’t want to date, we text each other and it’s always me to start the conversation everyday. Now when I text her that I love her she can’t say a word about it, what is bothering her?

  36. So i met a girl at a party and she gave me her number, i texted her the next day and eventually worked up the courage to ask her on a date, although she said yes it seemed almost like she wasnt too interested because she says she works all the time..but i get a different vibe, but at the same time she asks when shes going to see me, i cant read her too well, what are some techniques to try when texting her to see if she actually is or is not interested?

  37. I need urgent help. I have this girlfriend I was dating, before she traveled abroad to study, we promised to get married to each other. I love her so much that am so afraid to lose her. she said am too clingy, she blocked me on whatsapp today after we had some arguments although she’s still my friend on facebook, please someone tell me what to do, I don’t want to lose her. before she blocked me she said am tripping and being a psycho, am so confused.

  38. I started to talk with this girl she is ver kind and open minded I’m trying to win her heart but I don’t have the courage

    • If you can stand I front of her and make a conversation with her for at least two minutes….I don’t really know what your scared of….coz it means she can stand you and she doesn’t mind a having you as a friend.Start with the friend zone and get to know her better first then make a move

  39. I have a crush on a girl, and I just know her at a game.. We’re too far from each other, one day I told her that I love her.. She says brb.. My friend says she’s sad.. Then another day I told her I don’t love her anymore and she made me fall in love to her… What should I do??

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